Life is about perception. There is a good and bad side to almost every situation (with the exception of a few). It's all about how you choose to view things. I try to see the good in everything that happens to me, and believe me I've had a lot of stuff happen to me. If there isn't anything that stands out as positive then I chalk it up to a "lesson learned". I have times when I struggle with this, just like any normal, thinking, feeling, human being. But there are some people who thrive off being the victim in life, like they are some sort of "prey" and everyone is out to get them. To me this is a very narcissistic and selfish. How about trying to see things from another point of view? How about growing up and taking resposnibility for your actions.The quality of your thoughts directly controls the quality of your life. If all you do is see the negative side and constanly look for ways that someone has "done you wrong" then you will constantly "be the victim" of other people's actions. If you can take responsibility for choices you have made to get you in that situation to begin with then you can actually learn from life experiences and grow as a person. It is so easy to lie down and play the victim. How about fighting for your happiness and changing something when you realize there is a change to be made. You have to be the writter of your life, not the actor, director, or producer, but the person who hands out the scripts and says, "this is my life, and you are just living in it". I will never let someone else's mistakes or wrong doings towards me effect me in a negative way (unless it's against my kids..then that is a different story). They are writing their own life story and will have to pay the ultimate price of living with their failures. My life story will continue on the same path, but with just that bump in the road to add plot. We may not have control over every little thing that happens in our lives, but we certianly can control how we respond to them, and in turn we can control how we feel. Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change.
Love ♥ not dim and blind but so far-seeing that it can glimpse around corners, around bends and twists and illusion; instead of overlooking faults love sees through them to the secret inside~
